A satisfying sex life is healthy and natural. Physical and emotional intimacy are essential parts of a fulfilling relationship and lead to mental and physical well-being. Most people will experience sexual difficulties at some point in their lives. This could be due to stress, mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, past abuse or trauma, physical health conditions, lifestyle factors such as over-work, issues in their relationship, and life transitions such as having children. If you are in a relationship it is a good idea to involve your partner and attend sex therapy as a couple. You can also attend sex therapy if you are not in a relationship.
A sexual problem occurs when something in a couple’s sex life isn’t happening the way that they want it to. This can lead to a variety of emotions and feelings ranging from minor frustration to severe distress, resulting in relationship difficulties, a loss of confidence, and many other negative effects.
I am skilled and experienced in treating individuals and couples for a range of sexual difficulties including:
A lack of sexual desire or differences in sexual desire in a couple
A lack of interest or infrequent sex
Pain during sex (dyspareunia)
Penetration difficulties on intercourse (Vaginismus)
Inability to reach orgasm (Anorgasmia)
Sex or pornography addiction
Sex therapy is a type of talking therapy which supports individuals and couples to communicate openly and honestly about their sexual difficulties so these can be worked through and overcome, leading to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.
A thorough psycho-sexual history of the individual or couple is taken at the start of treatment to determine any medical, psychological, or interpersonal factors which may be contributing to the sexual difficulty. If medical issues are identified I may recommend medication or further tests to be completed by a doctor.
My therapeutic approach in sex therapy is a combination of psycho-dynamic where I explore and address the psychological or relationship issues which underlie the sexual difficulty, and cognitive-behavioural in which I employ behavioural techniques to focus on alleviating the physical symptoms. Specific tasks and exercises will be set for you to complete at home which aim to reduce anxiety and avoidance, and build trust and intimacy.
Sex is a sensitive issue that many couples find difficult to talk about so they sadly suffer in silence. There is plenty of evidence available to demonstrate that sex therapy works. If you would like to discuss this further or have any questions please contact me and I will be happy to offer advice about how sex therapy may benefit your situation.